Sep 25, 2008





Derek makes an excellent point that I experienced quite a bit in my own life - comfort is excellence's worst enemy.

When everything is not as good as you want it to be but still ok enough so to make you unwilling to lift more than a finger to make a change - that's when you can get stuck in one mediocre lame place for a really long time.

Napoleon Hill wrote in his famous book 'Think and Grow Rich' that the only way to keep a burning desire alive is to force yourself into a situation where you either 'make it work or perish'.

A bit of an extreme attitude no doubt, but I personally have been struggling with this for years, and I'm sure many others have as well. If you are comfortable, you just cannot muster the self discipline and the internal fire needed to make progress. It's just not there.

That's why when there's no internal pain, there needs to be an external source of motivation. It can be your boss that will fire you if you don't wake up in the morning, and it can be the fact that your friends are getting hot girls all the time while you're going home alone to wank. It's just too painful, and it motivates you to take real action.

And as Derek says - being rich or good looking is just good enough to get you the occasional hot girl and keep you comfortable, trapping you in the 'in between mode' which is so hard to get out of.

So if you're not good looking - you can see it as a blessing, because the drive it should give you will take you further than the good looking guy, which has his looks probably putting a damper on his psyche, unless he's a really extraordinary human being.

And if you are good looking - by all means take advantage of that, but find some other 'pain' in your life to help you get motivated to grow. Otherwise, the stagnation will come back to bite you in the ass sooner or later - and that's a personal promise. It's just the way life is.

Thanks for the video Derek! Be sure to check out Derek's new ebook version of Blissnosis.